Andrew

 

When did you last sing to yourself or to someone else and what song?

I think it was today. I sang some blues song, and I don’t remember the name of it. Just the beat in my head. I think it was a Louis Armstrong song. It was when I was hiking.

 

What is your favorite journey?

Going surfing in Malibu, Third Point. That’s my favorite spot to go surfing at. It’s a great break. I take my longboard out there, and I’ve been there multiple times. It’s usually where I go escape when I need to get away from LA. I live in LA. 

 

What characteristics do you value most in your friends?

Honesty. That’s the first one that came to my head. Honesty. It’s a good trait that I seek for and I ask for as much as I can.

 

What’s the biggest problem in your life?

Not taking enough risk. Not taking enough, I guess, like the initiative to do what I need to do. I mean, I know what I need to do. It’s just a matter of doing it. Not a specific instance, but that’s something that I need to bring to fruition.

 

What is the secret to lasting relationships?

Oh God, I’m going to imagine communication. I’m a single dude. Maybe honesty. Being forward with someone. And giving. I would say giving. Giving help, giving advice, resources, time.

 

When and where are / were you happiest?

It was earlier today. Chilling on a rock, looking over the view. It was a great moment. We took a hike to Yosemite Falls. There was one point where it was like on a peak. I chilled up there for 45 minutes, an hour. 

 

What do you fear most?

Fear itself. [laughs]

 

Would your childhood self be proud of you now?

For sure. Yeah. I’d be totally stoked. I just quit my job too, about a month ago. I’d be very excited about the opportunities that lie ahead, all the adventures. 

 

What’s the key to life?

Oh my God. I would say giving, to be honest. Giving as much of yourself to other people. I personally believe in giving as receiving type thing. The more you give, the more you get. Whether it be your time or resources or stopping to help someone change a tire. Whatever. That’s my answer.

 

What’s going to be your greatest accomplishment in the next five years?

Trying to start a company. That’s what I’m working on. That’s a huge feat. 

 

Do you think polygamists should have the right to marry multiple people, and if not, why?

That’s a great question. I’m going to say, yeah, sure. If the woman is choosing to marry this man knowing that he has multiple wives, who am I to say that they can’t do that? Let them roll. I’m not going to stop them. Just like gay marriage. I’m not going to stop you. I don’t care. I think everyone should have the choice to do whatever the fuck they want and live their lives. If that’s what they want to do in this lifetime, run with it.

 

What should I ask the next person?

Would you follow you in life? If you were the leader, would you follow yourself?


Ryan

 

When did you last sing to yourself or to someone else and what song?

To myself, probably on the drive over here. Joshua Radin. I can’t remember what song it was. He’s like an acoustic indie artist.  

 

What is your favorite journey?

Probably just doing stuff like this - I love going on adventures. My favorite place right now is Zion National Park, in Utah. I’ve been there a bunch of times, and I totally love it. But Yosemite is a close second for sure. 

 

What characteristics do you value most in your friends?

Hm. Loyalty. In strangers, when you can’t trust somebody — that’s what I value in having friends. You can trust them if anything comes up.

 

What’s the biggest problem in your life?

A job. [laughs] Lack of a job. I was working at NBC in LA. I was very corporate. I left that in June. I’m totally freelance right now. I’m trying to do that and see how far I can take it. I feel like if I can get enough freelance jobs, I’ll be like, happy, and feel like now I’m in the direction I want to go.

 

What is the secret to lasting relationships?

Communication. That’s it. [laughs] That’s it.

 

When and where are / were you happiest?

That’s hard. Hm. Let’s see. Well this is pretty great. This view is pretty awesome. [gestures to Half Dome] I hiked The Narrows in Zion. That was probably one of the best moments ever. It was amazing, absolutely amazing. That was two years ago. I was doing it with somebody. It was their first time doing it. It was my first time doing it. So we’d never been there and both of us were just totally amazed. Every corner you turn around in The Narrows is something just totally amazing. It’s the greatest hike ever. You should do it. 

 

What do you fear most?

Not being successful, and by successful, I just mean what I value as success. What I was saying before, doing what makes me happy. Not being able to achieve that is probably what I fear the most.

 

Would your childhood self be proud of you now?

[laughs] Yes, because when I was younger, I loved film and everything. All I wanted to do was work in television and movies. And I did. And I’m done with it. I feel like that chapter of my life is over. I’m glad I did it, but I’m definitely done with it. Yeah, my childhood self would definitely think that was pretty cool. 

 

What’s the key to life?

Happiness. That’s it. Being happy.

 

What’s going to be your greatest accomplishment in the next five years?

Setting more goals for myself and achieving them. A lot of my goals are like going places and doing stuff like this. So just setting those kind of goals and actually doing it instead of thinking about it. And not getting stung by a bee. [waves a bee away] Not a fan of bees.

 

Would you follow you in life? If you were the leader, would you follow yourself?

Yes, if I was outside my body, and I saw me doing what I’m doing, I’d be like, Yeah that’s pretty cool. I want to do that. Am I a leader? I wouldn’t say I’m too much of a leader. But if I had to follow me, I would, and it would be ok.

 

What should I ask the next person?

Where would you set up your dream hammock? I have a hammock in my backpack, and I was hoping there’d be a couple trees up here.


Sylvia

 

When did you last sing to yourself or to someone else and what song?

Let’s see. I probably sang last to my grandchild. It would’ve been the ABCs. Maybe 10 days ago. She was visiting.

 

What is your favorite journey?

I think my favorite journeys are — we’ve traveled a lot — but I’ve enjoyed when we go to natural places more than when we go to cities. So I would say the most favorite journey of all I ever took was either to Africa or the Galapagos Islands. We spent New Year’s Day 2000 in Kenya. And then the Galapagos would’ve been 1990. 

 

What characteristics do you value most in your friends?

I suppose genuineness.

 

What’s the biggest problem in your life?

As I said, my husband, Carl, and I live in Maine. He’s 93, though he’s in good health. We enjoy a good life living in the woods. But, you know, there’s coming a point where — living in the woods takes a lot of snow plowing and taking care of things. We love having all our children and grandchildren come to visit us, but we’ve got to face that we’re going to have to move back to civilization. [laughs] 

 

What is the secret to lasting relationships?

I think my husband has the best secret to that. Each partner needs to assume that they own 60 percent of the relationship.

 

When and where are / were you happiest?

I’m happiest seeing beautiful things in nature. With my husband, I’ll add that.

 

What do you fear most?

Oh, I think I fear a lot of getting to the point where somebody else has to take care of me. [pauses] Just in everyday life or just in the life that I have now, maybe it’s not, um, not being able to — to get my life organized enough to pass on to the next generation.

 

Would your childhood self be proud of you now?

Probably so. Mmhm. I think so. I think that I’ve accomplished a lot, though I’m not truly well-educated. I have two years of college, and then I got married. I’ve lived a really good life. I’ve had a few hard knocks, but as life goes on, I think you realize that those hard knocks really add to your life and make the rest of your life better.

 

What’s the key to life?

Oh my goodness. Well, probably making sure that your life makes other people’s lives happy.

 

What’s going to be your greatest accomplishment in the next five years?

One of my hobbies is family history. I’m kind of the family archivist, I guess you would say. I’m on the verge of getting everything organized. Fortunately, my grandparents and great-grandparents saved so many letters and so many photographs. So somehow or another, I feel like this is my responsibility to get all this organized, in the computer even, printed out for everybody, and that’s my offering to the next generation. But also, of course, getting us ready to move on to our next station in life. 

 

Where would you set up your dream hammock? 

Well, in general, I would say in the woods. [laughs] Specifically, even where we live, in the woods in Maine. I live in our dream place. 

 

What should I ask the next person?

What moment in your life were you most satisfied with yourself?


Tarn

 

When did you last sing to yourself or to someone else and what song?

“If Tomorrow Never Comes,” by Garth Brooks. I sang it for myself. 

 

What is your favorite journey?

My favorite I would say in the U.S. — San Francisco. I like to go and eat. It was kind of like a food trip. You see the difference between the cultures, food from different countries. Last year. I’ve been there a few times. 

 

What characteristics do you value most in your friends?

Honest. Friendly. You can trust them. You work with somebody or you travel with somebody, you have to trust them.

 

What’s the biggest problem in your life?

Language barrier sometimes. You have to understand everything better. I’ve lived four years in the U.S.

 

What is the secret to lasting relationships?

Reliable. Commitment. If you commit to something, you have to go with it.

 

When and where are / were you happiest?

I think when I was a child that I stay with my family. I grew up with my brothers. I have a good memory. You stay close to each other when you were a child. You play with your brothers, your siblings. You stay together with you parents. But now, when everybody grow up, everybody just separate, live their own life. I have two brothers. I’m the middle one. It was so fun when you spend time together. It’s hard to find that moment now. 

 

What do you fear most?

To be lonely. You feel like you need somebody around. You need somebody to come with you. Sometimes you’re afraid to be alone.

 

Would your childhood self be proud of you now?

I think my childhood, she wouldn’t be that happy probably. She might say, “Weren’t you going to be a doctor? Go to a better school? Or doing something else, make more money?” I’m a pharmacy technician. Because when I was a child, I dreamed to be police, I dreamed to be something else. I couldn’t make it to that dream. It would be better if I got what I dreamed. But at least I had a chance to travel and do something different and a lot of experience. I don’t know. It would be better if I did what I dreamed when I was a child.

 

What’s the key to life?

I try to make myself happy every day. Just to encourage myself to do something different. Travel with some friends. Happy to whatever that I do right now. Sustainable life — that you’re happy, just happy whatever you have right now, and try to make it better.

 

What’s going to be your greatest accomplishment in the next five years?

I just work hard and learn from my job. Work harder. Save money. Travel more. I want to travel to Italy and Europe. I have been to France, to Paris, but I never make it to Italy. I just want to go there. Like Julia Roberts, “Eat, Love, Pray.” To go everywhere. [laughs]

 

What moment in your life were you most satisfied with yourself?

When I got a government job. Eight years ago, in Thailand, for teaching. This was the first time I feel like, yes, I am successful. You have a lot of competitors. Like 15,000 people that got into the national test, and you pass it. You made it. I made my family proud. 

 

What should I ask the next person?

If you have a chance to choose your job, what would you like to be? 


Greg

 

When did you last sing to yourself or to someone else and what song?

I want to say two days ago, “Too Late To Turn Back Now,” by the Cornelius Brothers.

 

What is your favorite journey?

My favorite journey to date was riding my motorcycle around the Great Lakes. About ten years ago. 2005. I had a motorcycle, and I had some time, so that’s where I went. I’m originally from Michigan, so it was getting close to home.

 

What characteristics do you value most in your friends?

Honesty and sincerity. Trust comes from that. I’ve lived in a lot of places. Met a lot of people. I don’t always feel sincerity from people. That’s a high value to me.

 

What’s the biggest problem in your life?

Preparing for retirement in two years. Just preparing for the change in life, the next adventure. It’s a fortunate problem to have because I’ve lived through my working career. I’m financially set to step on to the next journey. So I’m excited but anxious. I’ve worked in the ocean shipping industry for 30 years. 

 

What is the secret to lasting relationships?

Honesty. [laughs] Communication. Open communication and honesty. That’s it. 

 

When and where are / were you happiest?

Wow. That’s a good question. We’ve been married 10 years, so it’s definitely in the last 10 years. [laughs] I would actually have to say the most happy I’ve been in the last 10 years is sitting where I currently am in St. Charles, Missouri. All things are balanced. Family, finances, and health. I’m very blessed.

 

What do you fear most?

Failure. A financial failure. Not being able to be self-sufficient in that respect.

 

Would your childhood self be proud of you now?

I think so, yeah. I came from a simple beginning. I just wanted to travel the world and meet people. The shipping industry has taken me all over the world. I feel very blessed. I’ve pretty much achieved beyond what I thought I would be able to do.

 

What’s the key to life?

If I knew the answer to that question… At 63 and asking that very question myself many times, I think it’s being true to yourself and doing what makes you happy. 

 

What’s going to be your greatest accomplishment in the next five years?

Figuring out what I want to do in retirement. 

 

If you could change your job tomorrow, what would you do instead? 

Be a chef. I’ve done baking. I would go for an Italian chef. Narrow it down to that. Sounds like it would be something fun to do.

 

What should I ask the next person?

Are you happy doing what you’re doing in life?